"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you."
Of all of the positive, uplifting quotes that I've come across, this is the one that has elicited from me an AHA! moment. But before I get enough into it, perhaps I should give you a bit more context in order to understand the extent to which this has affected me.
On February 13th, 2015, I found myself laid off of work, and happened to be one of the greatest jobs with one of the greatest companies I've ever had the opportunity to be a part of. At first this seemed great! I would have a mini vacation for the next month or so while I collected unemployment, giving me the much desired time away to work on my shred chops. One month came and went, two months, four months, etc., until I received the sad news that the company was going under, eliminating my chances of reemployment completely.
For the next fourteen months, I was relegated to doing mere side jobs here and there; luckily I had savings to fall back on, but after doing a quick back-of-the-envelope calculation, I had come to the harsh realization that my savings were soon to be depleted -- all around, bad news bears.
By March of 2016, my savings continued to dwindle, and my job prospects continued to look bleak. With this harsh realization, my body reacted in a way that it never had before, causing me to sincerely believe that I was about to die of some cardiac-related event; pretty much as pessimistic as it gets
In a panic, I was rushed to the Emergency Room. I remember thinking in my mind all of the things that I'll not have been able to accomplish. Among many other important thoughts. was realizing that I had never given any real effort in chasing my true passion, music [guitar to be more specific].
By the time I had reached the ER, I felt a bit better, but of course they ran the gamut of tests to confirm as to whether or not I had a heart attack or stoke. In the end? I was charged about $1300 for the diagnosis of a migraine and an anxiety attack. This of course didn't help my situation.
In that moment, I was at my lowest point [although I was quite happy to be alive, as you could imagine]. I was 32, I was broke, had tremendous debt due to my student loans, and had no real accomplishments to date. During my darkest hour, I came across a podcast episode that referenced that exact same premise in the quote mentioned above; and it was then that I realized that perspective makes all the difference in all things, especially success.
You may be thinking: alright, what's the point, already?
To put it plainly, things truly do happen for a reason, it's just up to us to find that reason for ourselves. This isn't intended to assign any divine meaning within the context of our daily lives, but merely to suggest that our struggles can mean something if we assign them meaning.
I like to believe that fate had bigger plans for me. Up to that point, after having relied on my credit card so heavily, I had received notice that I had amassed Chase Rewards that translated into a credit of $200.
Again, I had another choice. I could purchase groceries [arguably the prudent decision], or take a risk on something. As a way to cope with my anxiety, and increase my confidence, I decided to put that money into the Shredible.com site. This provided me with the chance to network with so many great people, causing things to lead into one thing, then another, then another, and now I'm preparing things for the release of the the Shredible.com Podcast, making this the best investment I've ever made, as it proved to me that controlling one's attitude can be the factor that determines failure or success.
Now that you have a little more understanding about my background, and the intent of Shredible.com, I part you with this call-to-action: Take a moment and think about what you have in your heart -- if you could accomplish just one thing with that gift, what would it be? Then ask yourself: What is it that's preventing that dream from becoming reality?